I found this article some days ago and I think it’s really good. It gives a broad overview, answers typical questions and points out typical prejudice about bisexuality. I think it might be really helpful to someone who is just trying to figure themself out. Maybe we could put it in the sidebar?

  • Walt J. Rimmer@lemmy.worldM
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    1 year ago

    While I do agree that it can sometimes be difficult to know one’s self, I didn’t figure out I was bisexual until I was almost 30, I’m not likely to put anything like this into the sidebar. That opinion may change as this community grows, and I’ll listen to what members of this community want, but right now I don’t think so.

    Also, sadly, since that article is from a premium site that limits the number of articles one can view, it would not be my first choice. I don’t want someone looking for guidance to suddenly hit a paywall. But I will keep in mind the idea of a pinned post or something similar for links to helpful resources.

    Thank you for the suggestion!

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    1 year ago

    The archive link seems to be broken, so here is the article:

    Am I Bisexual? by Jamie Arpin-Ricci

    As long as I have been writing about bisexuality, I have been receiving messages from people all over the world asking much the same questions: “How do I know if I’m bisexual?”

    After dissuading them from trusting a BuzzFeed quiz result, I often find that a conversation about assumptions, misunderstandings, and fear happens and is enough to bring clarity to this question. (And more often than not, when you are genuinely asking yourself this question, the answer is fairly likely to be “yes”).

    Ultimately, deciding to identify as bisexual (or not) is entirely your decision. There is no panel of judges. There are no qualifying tests. You do NOT have to score above 50% on a queer-o-meter to gain entry. No, instead, all that is required is for your to decide if it seems right for you. This article is merely a tool designed to help you bring clarity. What Is Bisexuality?

    While this may seem like a straightforward question (no pun intended), all too often the topic of definitions can be more complicated and unhelpful than you might think. For example, if we were to rely on an online dictionary (such as the Oxford Languages one), we would get something like this: “the quality or characteristic of being sexually attracted not exclusively to people of one particular gender.”

    Like any dictionary definition (especially an online one), it is very concise. And that’s part of the problem. Like most things important, a single, short sentence will be hard-pressed to get the job done. And in the case of this particular example, it has the added problem of defining bisexuality in the negative (i.e. “not exclusively). So, while a starting point for understanding, such definitions are not nearly enough.

    Then, of course, we have to acknowledge that different terms mean different things to different people. Personal experience, cultural context, and even language will shape how one defines and understands bisexuality. Therefore, it is important to note that what I share here is just my take and in no way lays claim to having it all worked out.

    After years of hearing many different definitions (such as it meaning: attraction to men and women; attraction to all sexes or genders; love beyond gender, etc.), I have come to most commonly use the explanation put forward by Robyn Ochs, a bisexual activist:

    • “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted — romantically and/or sexually — to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”*

    The other thing that I have found helpful is the idea of bisexuality being an umbrella concept under which a diverse expression of identities can be found. I first became aware of this concept through the writings of Shiri Eisner, a bisexual activist and author of the critically important book “Bi: Note for a Bisexual Revolution”. Eisner provided these two images to demonstrate.

    Source: https://radicalbi.wordpress.com/2011/11/23/the-bisexual-umbrella/

    While I won’t unpack it in detail here, you might learn a great deal by researching some of the words listed, as well as checking out Eisner’s work.

    All of this to say, bisexuality is a lot of things with room for different experiences, understandings, and expressions. If you can find yourself in that mix and the term bisexual fits, then perhaps that answers your question.