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College students =/= young people
even looking at just 18-24 it’s like 1/3 of them and not a representative sample, and grad students are an even tinier group of mostly mid-late 20s
College provides (usually) a built in community and likely even a walkable neighborhood, and many opportunities to meet people that the general working public often lack. Didn’t stop apps from becoming popular on campuses, but I feel like it was always destined to be a fad in that context, because the apps suck so much
Young people in the best possible social environment they’ll be in their entire lives with constant opportunity every single day to meet people exactly their age aren’t using apps? What a surprise
Am I the only one here who’s had relatively okayish experiences with dating apps. Im not exactly a
either.the most toxic relationship in my life was with someone I meet through college so idk if traditional dating is really what everyone makes it out to be.
in my mostly male and male-presenting friend group, it seems to be split 50/50 in terms of who’s had an okay time on them and who finds them to be a barren hellscape, and it doesn’t really seem to correspond 1:1 with conventional attractiveness either. I think my friends who got on them before they became even further enshittified tend to have a higher opinion of them. FWIW I became single this year after almost 9 years in a relationship and I’m firmly in the hellscape camp.
(Also don’t let one bad experience scare you off IRL connection, I really do think it’s something special when it works out)
I remember the slightly gooder old days when OKCupid was the dominant dating “app” (because it was a website). You answered a ton of survey questsions ranging from serious philosophical and political question to silly personal preferences and weighed how important they were to you, then the website matched you with people who had similar values. You could write a big complicated profile if you wanted, upload some pictures. There were fun, silly quizes to take. It was actually designed to be user friendly and help you find people who had similar interests and values.
online dating doesn’t have to be absolute bullshit. In theory it could work really well. We just have to, you know, kill capitalism.
https://sci-hub.se/https://doi.org/10.5964/ijpr.v3isupp2.78
Marriages resulting from the online matchmaking service were observed to have significantly higher scores for marital adjustment. We conclude that online matchmaking services based on predictive inference and proscribed selection can be observed to have a significant and meaningful impact on marital quality
https://www.pnas.org/doi/abs/10.1073/pnas.1222447110
marriages that began on-line, when compared with those that began through traditional off-line venues, were slightly less likely to result in a marital break-up (separation or divorce) and were associated with slightly higher marital satisfaction among those respondents who remained married.
pnas lol
